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Disenfranchised Conservative Fathers – Keep Fighting

Those of us who have suffered oppressive government and the child support bureaucracy; (anti) family court, judicial denial of parental rights and ultimately all or our rights, denial of free speech, and vilification as “deadbeats” for being “beat dead” and disenfranchised by the system are not surprised that this system has grown to do the same to others. Us Conservatives activist father and family advocates had 4 years to bring the issue of Title IVd and the disenfranchisement of fathers to the attention of the Trump administration and we failed. But make no mistake that while the “right” ignores us the radical left, part of this new administration, is out to destroy us. BLM, Antifa, and socialist democrats ALL have Marxist anti family positions which will make it worse for men/fathers/families. We need to continue to fight back.

Conservatives need to be like Father and Family Activists have been for the past 30 years and realize the battle continues daily. Perhaps it is my 25+ years of advocacy for parental rights which has me see the recent elections more as a minor loss of a battle than the loss of the war, for indeed, the battle continues and the war is lost only if we surrender and fail to protect the U.S. Constitution and Bill of Rights, daily, weekly 24/7/365 year after year. And to this end I believe that the recent fraudulent election has revealed who is the enemy and also awakened the great army of American Citizen’s who believe in individual rights and responsibilities granted to us by God.

We should recognize that the Presidency was not lost but stolen in a fraudulent election due to unconstitutional changes to methods and manners of voting in the swing states combined with flagrant ballot stuffing and other irregularities. But this is correctable as the state legislatures can meet and change these rules. We need to begin this process immediately. In states with Governors or elective bodies that refuse we need to push a grass roots voting effort to primary them out of office or win outright in general elections. STATES SHOULD MANDATE IN STATE CONSTITUTIONS THAT EACH LEGISLATURE MEET AND AUTHORIZE THE ELECTORAL COLLEGE REPRESENTATIVES FROM THAT STATE! This will allow them to investigate and stop fraud in the future.

The “President Elect” is a tottering old fool and a career outlaw politician. Certainly the VP will be looking to replace him, the timing and method of which is bound to cause division in their ranks. Conservatives need to hold this administration accountable and keep the pressure on it for every one of its failures and for every attempt to violate the rights of Citizen’s. Let there be no public appearance by any of their representatives which does not receive a rally in opposition. Pitch the socialist democrats against the “moderates”, Antifa and BLM have no love of this “President”. Use their own methods against them where legal.

The Judicial system has failed us and the Constitution. Federal Judges readily legislate from the bench but when called upon to determine Constitutionality they took a pass, to the last using procedural maneuvers to dismiss election lawsuits to delay past the counting of the electoral votes. The Supreme Court shamefully dismissed a suit filed by one state against another. As the court of original jurisdiction they were bound by federal law to address the case but they too used procedural maneuvers to dismiss the case. What good is a “Conservative Court” if they don’t act? We need to put pressure on the Judiciary and when they act political we need to call them out and protest their actions.

The election has also outed the milquetoast RINO’s who failed to support our President in battling the fraud. They further paint all Trump supporters at the rally with a broad brush of guilt for the actions of a very few individuals, and these few infiltrated by Antifa thugs. They now present themselves as “peacemakers” to bring the nation together. Wishing to be recognized as doves they are serpents, traitors to true Conservatives and supporters of the Constitution. ALL patriots should withhold their donations from the National Republican Party and donate directly to true Conservative Republicans. And they need to be DRIVEN FROM OFFICE IN PRIMARIES.

While we have lost the Senate, most likely to another fraudulent election, and failed to gain the house the promised “big blue wave” never materialized. Their majority is a slim majority. While they may kill the filibuster and pack the supreme court these actions will only serve to further alienate them from the American Citizen’s, the majority of which do not support that. There are 34 U.S. Senate seats up for a vote in 2022 and we need to dump the RINO’s in primaries and win 17 general elections a a minimum. And with a slim dem majority in the house Conservative Republican control is a reality.

To this end THE ELECTION NEEDS TO START TODAY. Find and support true conservative candidates and donate your time and money to get them elected. We also need to look to make gains in putting true Conservative Republican’s in control of state houses and Governorships. Primary out the globalists like the Secretary of State and Governor in Georgia and replace them with true Conservatives.

Unlike the tea party which pushed the Republicans to do right then fizzled due to lack of a national leader, this movement has a leader in Donald J. Trump. He has committed to continuing the fight to drain the swamp and his loyalty to us deserves loyalty back. Additionally, this movement isn’t a one horse show with up and coming leaders showing their mettle; DeSantis, Gaetz, Jordan, and many others come immediately to mind. Should President Trump decide not to run in 2024 we have a large field of true Conservative Republican’s to choose from. We need to fully support and fund their political activities.

Fire fake news. Sites like Epoch Times, One America News, Tucker Carlson, and The Bongino Report among others needs to be our go to sources of information. Fire twitter, facebook, and youtube TODAY and replace them with Rumble and Parler. As I write this Google has removed Parler’s app and Apple is doing the same. Amazon is throwing them off their server. Once they have rebuilt on another server you can use your browser to go to and get on them direct. Use DuckDuckGo as your search engine and get a Virtual Privacy Network (VPN), I use Express VPN. We need to develop more Conservative American businesses such as banks, credit card companies, and manufacturing with direct internet sales so we can break ourselves from the monopoly of globalist monopolies like Amazon and Walmart. BUY LOCAL AND BUY AMERICAN! As consumers we can vote with our purchases and dollars.

Republican states need to follow the lead of Florida and Governor DeSantis regarding the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) Virus. Open schools, churches and businesses and get the Conservative states economies moving. NO MORE LOCK DOWNS AND CLOSURES! Resist any and all actions by the federal government to restrict the Citizen’s of your state. High risk people (like me) can hunker down until the vaccine is widely available but there’s no reason to restrict young healthy people. States, like NY and CA are seeing people fleeing those states, let them stay locked down and accept the industries and businesses which are fleeing the arbitrary closures.

The assault on President Trump may be a blessing in disguise. From spying on a candidate and then a sitting President to the Russia Hoax and special prosector then impeachment, the CCP Virus and illegal restrictions on Citizen’s, and finally a fraudulent election, A COUP, to remove the President we now know how far the globalists will go to undermine America and more importantly they have all exposed themselves. They showed their tolerance for violence in the acceptance and encouragement of rioting, burning and looting, which they then portray as “mostly peaceful protests”. They use their echo chamber and propaganda machine to blame conservatives for what they are doing in an attempt to re-write history, a system of lies and deceit which would make any communist proud.

Make no mistake, we are in an information, government control, and violent civil disobedience civil war to take down the U.S. Constitution and insert a globalist oligarchy controlled in the U.S. by home grown oligarch’s and social democrat political elites. They get rich and have freedoms we don’t, rules for thee but not for me, this while the middle class disappears and the poor get poorer as their numbers increase making more people dependent on government. They will use violence against you, including the violence of non prosecution of your attackers and prosecution of you for defending yourself. While I’m not supporting violence and uncivil actions, we need to recognize we need to play the game by the rules in force and not back down from violence and stand up to uncivil acts with our own civil disobedience. We need to give as good as we get. And if we stay the course we can get the U.S. Constitution, The Bill of Rights, the Rule of Law, and America back again.

Jay Hamilton

The answer is you, the time is now

Organizational infighting, no organizational cooperation towards a specific goal, and a lack of individual support are killing the men’s rights/fathers rights/parental rights movement. Now that I have 25 years of activism under my belt with a multitude of organizations (many of which have come and gone) I can offer up my personal experience as an example of individuals not supporting the cause and worse, individuals undermining the cause.

It’s 1995 and I got whacked with the standard triple order, a “Temporary Order of Protection (TOP) restricting access to my children, a “Temporary” Custody Order for my (soon to be) ex wife, and the “Temporary” Child Support Order. Sound familiar? This when the internet hadn’t yet been invented and email was a new thing which most didn’t have. I found a newspaper notice of a meeting for the “Fathers Rights Association NYS” (FRANYS) and attended my first meeting of the local Capital District chapter (FRA-CD).

The first meeting was attended by the President of the local chapter and me. That’s it. I did get a load of good information from him to help me individually as a pro se litigant. Subsequent meetings would have at most 3 or 4 people and for the most part consisted of people relaying their personal injustices suffered, each story worse than the one before. The statewide meeting was to be in our area in a couple of month’s and I attended that, about 10 people at that one. I sat down and when attendance was taken of the chapter delegates voting on the state board there was none from my chapter so I was sat as the voting member. I’m 4 months into the process and sitting on a policy board.

The organization, a 501c3 non profit, lacked any consistent lobbying of government for change and had NO political action committee or lobbyist. The monthly meetings consisted of people looking for help on their individual cases and upon hearing the system was so bad that they would end up with the “Standard NY Order” of every other weekend visits which weren’t enforced and payment of excessive child support which would leave them personally at the poverty level most attended 2 or 3 meetings and never joined to organization as a member. But every month a group of new initiates to injustice would show up looking for help.

The organization held a lobby day at the NYS Legislature each spring and I attended my first in 1996. Attendance was less than 50 people, this in a state with a population of about 20 million where it is estimated there were 2.5 million plus non custodial parents. It was disorganized with few meetings between organization leaders and the leaders of the legislature and important committees. Many attendees showed up in shorts and t-shirts and it was not uncommon for a meeting with a legislator to turn into an insult fest with legislators shouted at for what they haven’t done to help out. Once the event was over there was no lobbying presence and outside of this legislative activity there was no interaction with state agencies or the executive and judicial branches of government.

After 3 years of litigation I lost my kids to alienation in 1999. Instead of dealing with individual injustices I decided to get involved to change things for the better for everybody. I was elected President of FRA-CD and also made the Chair of the Legislative Committee with FRANYS. I had weekly meetings with legislative leaders and began lobbying the Governors Office and the Office of Court Administration which oversees NYS Courts. I was joined by FRA-CD members Debby Fellows and Randall L. Dickinson and we 3 became the principle advocates and lobbyists in NYS.

In 2001 we lobbied the NYS Senate Leader for money for a fatherhood center and were to receive a grant of $25,000 the first year. But some in the state leadership feared that FRA-CD, the largest chapter of 6, would break from it so they “decertified” the FRA-CD leadership. They then filed felony theft charges against me for paying the chapters outstanding bills “without authorization”. The frivolous charges were dismissed at grand jury, but not without 6 month’s under the color of charges which resulted in the Senate pulling support for the Fatherhood Center.

The removal of FRD-CD did result in the chapter going independent and the Coalition of Fathers and Families NY, Inc. (FaFNY) was formed as a statewide membership organization from the leaders of the FRA-CD Chapter. FRANYS and its chapters ceased activity except for local in person meetings and folded all together a few years later. We chose to call ourselves a coalition as our focus was going to be on educating and lobbying NYS Government in all branches and at all levels and in doing so would bring together the various organizations in NYS to work on goals and objectives such as shared parenting and court reform.

We held a statewide lobby day in April of every year to bring in the groups to lobby for our legislation. In addition we held weekly meetings with legislators, staff, the Governors Office and NYS Court Administration. I delivered flyers and handouts to the entire legislature EVERY week, walking the floors and delivering them personally. We wrote op-ed articles and appeared on TV and Radio. But to maintain this level of work we were expending 30-40 hours a week, this on top of our full time jobs. Maintaining membership lists got to be an administrative burden and we changed to a Board run organization which freed up more time to lobby. We affiliated nationally with the American Coalition of Fathers and Children (ACFC). We held many successful protests with media coverage and were successful in changing many policies and rules for the better and we blocked a lot of anti-father legislation.

In 2006 we started a push to get shared parenting enacted. The powers opposed managed to hold the bill in the Children and Families Committee of the Assembly and we focused our attention there. Through affiliation with ACFC we used Glenn Sacks “His side” computer-fax and developed a “Thumbs Up!” campaign to bombard members of the committee daily and continually to bring the bill up for a vote this in addition to collecting signatures across the state. Month’s of work culminated in a scheduled vote but opposition by Speaker of the Assembly Sheldon Silver resulted in him horse trading favors for no votes and a slim majority of both parties together held the bill, in effect killing it that year.

The work load took a toll on those with the organization and combined with changing life circumstances the leaders took a needed break from organizing and lobbying. Unfortunately no persons or organizations have stepped up to fill the void in lobbying state government. The National Parents Organization is pushing for Bill A0918 in the NYS Assembly a shared parenting in temporary orders bill and a quick search shows Shared Parenting S02916 Helming, and S04260 Parker in the Senate. A04005 Weprin, same as S02584 Lanza which is the Family Court Reform Act (a FaFNY sponsored bill) is still in both houses. All bills sit with few multi or co-sponsors showing a lack of lobbying for enactment.

I think my experience supports my position of a lack of support and organizational cooperation. I don’t want to sound all gloom and doom though. Given that organizations are staffed almost 100% by unpaid volunteers and we represent a group of people who have been financially wiped out, and usually remain so for many years, the advocacy organizations have made great headway. In 1995 you would have been given every other weekend Friday at 5 to Sunday at 6 and one mid week 4 hour visit with NO enforcement for interfering with that little time and it was unheard of for a father to actually get custody. Child Support Enforcement and courts treated you like the enemy, now not so much. So things have improved, but there’s much more to do.

Just as emails and internet changed our organization from meeting in a physical location once a month, social media and high speed internet are changing the way groups “meet” and discuss things. Information which took us month’s to find or distribute now can be disbursed in minutes with the worlds information available immediately on your smart phone. That said, it is a bit shameful that in this day and age of instant communication we have no organizational cooperation towards a specific goal, no individual participation in action items like contacting legislators, and legislation like shared parenting which has about 85% support of the population sits idle with no organizational or grass roots advocacy.

If you agree the system needs changing the person to do that is you and the time to do it is now.

James Hays, (Ret) NYS En-Con Police Lt., Co-founder and past President FaFNY, past Director NY MAN, life member NCFM, past administrator with Friends of Protection For Men.

NY MAN endorses Larry Sharpe for Governor

The New York Men’s Action Network endorses Larry Sharpe for Governor of New York State. Larry Sharpe, running on the Libertarian Party line has come out strongly for shared parenting as natural and normal and believes parental rights should not be restricted unless a parent is proven bad and an unfit parent (see his campaign meme above). You can see Larry Sharpe speak to these issues on Long Island Back Story.

For the parents, men and women, and families abused by New York States incompetent and corrupt (anti) family courts the choice of Larry Sharpe is a no brainer for he is the FIRST statewide candidate in the last 20 years to come out publicly calling for family court and child custody reform. He has gone so far as to include it on one of his campaign buttons and other campaign materials.

available here

Let’s address the nay sayers who will dismiss this endorsement asking for support for their party. For the last 20 years each party has controlled one house of the legislature and held the Governor’s Office about 1/2 the time, yet neither party has seen fit to pass ANY reform legislation. Additionally, NO candidate for statewide public office of either major party has publicly come out in support for reform of the system in any fashion.

Republican’s will point to the anti family policies of NY Democrat’s, and while it is true Assembly Democrats like disgraced leader Sheldon Silver and (then) Judiciary Committee Chair Helene Weinstein have blocked ALL legislation, especially shared parenting legislation (which enjoys over 80% support from all New Yorkers) Senate Republican’s have also been active in opposing shared parenting, with Senators like Republican Betty Little leading the opposition to reform. It is an unholy alliance of “opposing” parties which blames the other for inaction to reform a system they put into place together.

The “deadbeat dad” legislation introduced by Republican Sen. Kathy Marchionne is a classic example of the unholy alliance of Republican’s and Democrats. Studies have shown that the reason for default on child support is due to high awards and inability to pay. Thus the system impacts poor fathers, disproportionately fathers of color, and yet Democrats readily jump on the “deadbeat” bandwagon, even though these fathers are beat dead and dead broke. Democrats and Republicans alike turn a blind eye to fathers incarcerated for non payment, a debtors prison for poor men, mostly men of color.

Republican support to label disenfranchised dads deadbeats 2013

A constituent letter to Assemblyman Angelo Santabarbara and Senator George Amedore has went unanswered by both deadbeat politicians for over a year now. Now that they are running for reelection they freely contact constituents for support. Deadbeat Santabarbara sent a snail mail notice with contact information on his office stating, “I encourage you to call me, send me an email, or visit my web site… I want to hear from you”. A blatant lie given the non response to parental rights issues before him which went unanswered, without even a form letter of acknowledgement. Deadbeat Amedore announces his “lime disease” Committee work and “FREE document shredding” by snail mail. Taxpayer money spent on reelection while he ignores the plight of children and destroyed families. Deadbeat Santabarbara went so far as to block the constituent on LinkedIn when he posted about the death of Gabby Boyd due to his legislative inaction on reform.

Vote for me because the other guys is worse is NO reason to vote for them. The 2 party status quo (crazy) do the same thing over and over again and expect a different outcome people (Republican Molinaro) will tell you a vote for a “3rd party” candidate (LARRY SHARPE) is a “split vote” working for the Incumbent (Democrat Cuomo). Perhaps if the supporters of either major party wished the support of father, mother, and family advocates they would have done something to reform a system instead of creating this one which is harming children and destroying families.

Can Larry win? What we say is does it matter if another status quo do nothing for reform politician wins (Democrat or Republican)? But if recent elections are any indication, the answer is yes, he can. But even without a win we have established the need for reform and if any future candidates want the support of family advocates they will have to begin to address the issues. A good showing on election day for Larry Sharpe is good for reform advocates, families, children, and parents. See Larry Sharpe on the Rubin Report speaking on this topic. He’s also on Joe Rogan here.

NY MAN is a non partisan political action site dedicated to men, father, and family issues. We believe in the EQUAL rights of BOTH parents, the right of children to BOTH parents, and in PARENTAL RIGHTS as superior to government bureaucrats, lawyers, and politicians who act as as if they know best how to raise your children, treating them, and you, as dependent on and working for the state. Morally superior “professional” busybodies telling you how to live your daily life and raise your children “in your best interest” while they plunder your assets while telling you the tyranny is for your own good need to be voted out of office.

Let your voice be heard. We encourage you to support and VOTE for Larry Sharpe for Governor of New York State.